A lot of girls seem to define themselves by their boyfriends. They lose their own identity when they are dating someone. For example when they go to introduce themselves to someone that MIGHT know that boy they say something like, “Hi I’m _______, __________’s girlfriend.” I just think it is getting so sad that girls are doing this. I am probably the biggest hypocrite on this subject because I know I have done the same thing but now I am seeing everything in a whole different light.
Not only are girls defining themselves by their boyfriends they are blind to everything that they are doing behind their backs. Trust me when I tell you that they are not as sweet and trustworthy as we like to think. I don’t know if it is just the frat scene or if all SMU boys think they are entitled to everything. They do whatever they want no matter how much they hurt the third party. My ex, a member of a certain frat that I wont mention, used to tell me numerous times a week how these boys would be cheating on their girlfriends and their girlfriends had no idea. I have never known so many boys that do that, sure in high school there were a few (A VERY SMALL FEW) but the amount now is just sad. If you are in a relationship with someone even just for a short period of time be faithful or don’t be in the relationship. Isn’t pointless for a boy to be in it if he is going to cheat on you? Sure he likes you… but he wants her and he is going to have her even if he is with you!
This is just my warning girls. Don’t fall for their lies and don’t get me wrong there has to be some good ones out their but, considering that every single guy I know in a certain frat I wont name cheated on their girlfriends the likelihood of it happening to one of it is concerning. All I have to say is, keep your own identity, NEVER define yourself by who your boyfriend is because in the end being you and not “Michael’s girlfriend” is going to pay off a lot more.
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I completely agree with you about how girls should not be using their boyfriends as part of their identity. When I came to college, I told my boyfriend who was staying back in california that I didn't want to be the girl who was sitting in the hallway every night talking to her boyfriend back home. I wanted to go out and meet people and not stay in waiting for him to call. He completely agreed because he wanted to have a good college experience as well. It makes me so sad to see those girls who have spent the whole year clinging to a guy, and then they break up and she finally realizes that since she poured all her time into him that she has nowhere to go. One of my mom's friends told me not to take relationships too seriously during college because right now we need to be discovering who we are. If we find our identity in the person we are dating, we never discover ourselves.
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